Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father's house; So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him.
Hearken, consider and incline...three words used to get our total and undivided attention. What is the advice that the bride is to listen to, what is it she should stop and think about, what is it she should be willing to accept that the psalm writer is about to say directly to this woman who is about to embark upon married life?
We find that she is told to forget her own people, and her father's house.... In other words, the bride must break off all her prior relationships, all other bonds or alliances that have formed and separate herself forever from all that she has known since birth, clinging only to her husband, the king. Does it mean she should never speak to others or never spend time with them? No, of course not!
But she must readily understand that her primary focus and heart's desire is to be toward her husband. Hence, she must now put all of her efforts into building a close relationship with him - above all else - and love him with singleness of heart and mind. Her newly acquired husband is not to be added to the bottom of her personal list of special people and activities or personal goals, for the king deserves more than leftovers! He is to be placed at the TOP of his wife's list, as most important to her...Proverbs 31:11
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Where do you have your husband placed today on your list of priorities?How much effort are you putting into building an intimate relationship with him? It is wise counsel that this young woman is being given, and we would all do well to take heed to its constructive encouragement! Many husbands today are tended to and loved only if there is nothing else the wife is busy with such as children, or grandchildren, a part-time job, activities with "the girls", decorating pursuits, Sunday school projects and church responsibilities, home school commitments, the computer etc.
Only when the wife has accomplished all that she has wanted to do first or all that she considers top priority and has enough energy, thought, or even time left to spend on or with her husband is the king remembered, let alone reverenced.
Let's be honest , sometimes the attitude we take toward our husbands is this - "He can wait; who does he think he is anyway, a king or something??" In fact, we're guilty often times of behaving as if our husbands were a "royal pain" rather than a king! And God says it is foolish of us....